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Many people, in relationships, decide that they don’t want to have sex before marriage. Some people will not have any type of sexual or pre-sexual intimacy, because they may be tempted to lose control and engage in sexual contact. Being celibate takes self-control, because we are, by nature, sexual beings. From the time we are infants, we become familiar with our genitals.
Babies discover their genitals and often touch them because it gives them pleasure. There is nothing wrong with a baby discovering their self-awareness. However, many people discourage their infants and children from touching their ‘private’ body parts for whatever reason.
Most people, when they are in a loving relationship with their partner will want to express some sort of intimacy. After all, we want our partner to know that we care for him or her. Being sensual – notice I didn’t say sexually – intimate is possible, but most people do want some degree of contact with the person they love.
When you are celibate, you may be totally asexual, or you may be sexual, but not go ‘all the way’ or you may avoid missionary sex and engage in oral sex. Many people feel that oral stimulation isn’t really sex at all, because the penis does not penetrate the vagina. However you feel about sex will affect how you relate to your partner. If both people are comfortable with the level of intimacy that you engage in, then all should be fine. There should never be any guilt felt by either of the partners as they relate to each other.
Some people believe that being celibate is merely not engaging in penile/vaginal sex. However, they may engage sexual activity that doesn’t require penetration of the penis. Or the man may penetrate the vagina with a condom on, because technically, the penis does not touch the vagina because when covered by the condom. Then again, the couple may engage in touching and manipulation of the male and female sexual organs, or there may be oral stimulation involved. The point is that the couple will have to decide for themselves what celibacy means to them.
No one else should dictate to you how you should relate to your relationship partner. Some people may expect you to live like a Priest, Brother or a Nun, but that isn’t necessary when you define what being celibate means to you.
Celibacy is not a practice to steer men away from Jezebels and shiksas. It’s not a road to personal, celestial perfection. It’s taking a beautiful and very meaningful act of human expression and defining it in its highest terms, and preserving it for its proper purpose. Continue reading →
Other articles on celibacy:
- Celibacy Writers Wanted (bangaricontentgallery.com)
- All the Celibate Ladies? A Different Question About Labels and Language (spiritualfriendship.org)
- [Book Review] The Celibate Seeker: An exploration of celibacy as a modern spiritual practice (celibacyexperiment.wordpress.com)
- What’s the Big Fucking Deal About Celibacy? (jezebel.com)
- How is Gay Celibacy Different from Straight Celibacy? (spiritualfriendship.org)
- Uninvited Celibacy (soulembraces.com)
- No One Is “Doomed” to Celibacy (spiritualfriendship.org)